Great Father Of Twins – Having Twins

To be a father of twins is not an easy task. Only other dads of twins know how it feels, specially if, as it is my case, the twins are your first children.

Having twins is very different from having a single baby, and one very important point is that twins require a much more active participation of dads. I think I would have participated the same if we had a single kid, but in the case of twins there is not option, you HAVE to do a lot of tasks.

There are lots of websites talking about having and growing twins, but most of them show the information from the point of view of mothers.

In this blog, I will share all my feelings, experiences that have happened to me in these almost five years, and of course things that will happen in the future.
I hope this website will be useful for other fathers of twins, and, why not, useful for some mothers of twins, as they can realise what do their husband is feeling.   In additio I will be posting interesting articles about growing babies and kids.

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As a father of twins, we have to do a lot of tasks, and make some decisions. I will share in this post the 5 things I’ve done that I am most proud of.
 

1. Divide the night with my wife

This had not been planned before the birth, but I must say it is one of the things I am most proud of. It happened that I was doing some extra work, I am computer engineer and had some particular clients, besides my 8 hour day job. So I had to work at night.

Before having children, I did that type of work as soon as I arrived home, but after the birth it was impossible. So I started to work after the babies felt asleep, and as I was working, every time they cried I went to feed them and take care of them, telling my wife to stay sleeping.

Then, at 3 am, when I finished working, I went to sleep and it was her turn. This way, I slept 5 hours (but without interruptions) and she slept from 10 pm till 3 am without interruptions and maybe had to feed them one time between 5am and 6am.

2. Make them sleep early

I cannot emphasize how important is to do this since they are very little. We gave them dinner and then make them sleep by 9pm everyday. Starting this routine when they are little makes them get used to it and don’t complain in the future.

As an example, they get so used to the routine, that one time my parents came to take care of them some hours at night, the boy (he was 2 years old!) at 9 o’clock took his pillow and told his grandparents: It’s time to sleep.

3. Start school very young

I must be fair. This was not my idea, it was my wife’s. I was not sure if sending the twins to school when they were 1 year and 2 months old would be a good thing. But she argumented that it would be productive, specially for the boy who was rather anxious.

And she was right. It was great. Their adaptation was not long and they started to make friends. And the next year, when a lot of kids were crying on the first day of class, they gave us a kiss and stay in class without complaint.

But as I said before, what I am proud of in this case is to have listened to my wife.

4. Not letting the grandparents spoil our limits

This has caused lots of “fights” between my mother and me, because she tries to overprotect them. When we punish the kids, sending them to a corner in the living room to make them think and she was there, she tried to convince us to end the punishment very soon.
Limits should be clear since they are very young, and the kids are always trying to “move the line”. If somebody allows them to do things that are not within the limits, they try to repeat that, and you will have a very difficult task: make your kids accept your limits again.

5. Separate twin rooms when they were 4 years old.

This can vary depending if they are fraternal twins, identical twins, two boys, two girls or one boy and one girl, and if it is possible to use another room.
In our case, we have one boy and one girl and I must say I am very proud of having separated them.
Now each one has their place, their toys, one room is decorated for a boy and the other for a girl. Also, when they invite friends, girls can play in one place and boys in the other, and they don’t fight any more.

 
These are the five things I am most proud of having done as a father of twins.  I hope I will be able to extend this list as time passes and the twins continue growing up.

What do you think about these five points ?   Do you agree with what we have done ?   What are the things you are proud of ?   Please leave a comment and share your opinions.

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As a father of twins, we have to do a lot of tasks, and we make mistakes. I will share in this post the 5 things I’ve done that I regret.

1. Loose patience with them

I must admit it. I have no much patience with kids. Sometimes I realize I shout them, because I was expecting them to do something, when I should have thought about the reason they had for not doing what I expected. There are times where I think they are older, and become angry for things that are natural at their age. This is the thing I most regret.

2. Didn’t enjoy the first months

Besides the natural mess of the first months, I didn’t enjoy the first months for an additional reason. My wife and my family’s relation was not in the best moment, so we didn’t ask them all the help we were needing.  In the first months, help is needed and that situation complicated our lives.
I should have tried harder to improve that relationship before.  Now the relationship is excellent, but prevented me to enjoy the first months.

3. Not playing enough with them

This may happen to many parents, when you return home from work you are very tired and are not so motivated to play with them. In addition, as they are twins, they always have somebody to play with, so you tend to think they don’t need you.  But I’ve realized how much they need us to play with them as years passed, and for example, the boy is going to a psychologist, as he was behaving very bad and we had no clue of the reason. And it seems one of the problems is that he needs us to play more with him.

4. Not being strict with some limits

Limits are very important and I think we have been strict enough. However,  there have been some cases where we allowed to do some things that I regret.  For example, when they were 3 years old,  we allowed them some nights to come to our bed before going to sleep.  And that was terrible,  because they continued doing that for a long time, until we decided to be firm, and make them sleep in their rooms.
Of course, that caused crying and screaming the first days,  but I am glad we did that.

5. Give them too much presents

Of course you like to buy your twins lots of presents. I like too. But I feel we have given them too much presents, and that causes they don’t valorate the toys they have, always wanting more.

These are the five things I regret having done as a father of twins.

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It is not easy to be a parent,  and if you are parent of twins it is more difficult.  Finding a good crib is a time consuming task.   The Graco Lauren Classic Crib Espresso is one crib that has a majority of positive reviews,  everybody says that it is easy to assemble, it is secure (what all parents want on the first place).  Follow the link below and check out the product and the detailed reviews.  I used it for my twins and I was very happy with it.
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We all want to keep our children safe, and when they are just babies it’s important to find the right baby car seats for your vehicle. Unfortunately a lot of parents don’t have enough knowledge about them outside of looking for the best price. Today we want to help you learn more about finding the right car seat, and what your choice should include.

When you first start doing your research we recommend addressing the basic safety issues. You need a baby car seat that can connect the seat belt securely. The right choice will come with a LATCH system or Lower Anchor and Tether for Children. This is the system that fastens the car seat to your car. Without it your child won’t be as stable as you might think, even if the regular seat belt is being used.

The best baby car seats out there also come with a Versa Tether Energy Absorbing system. It’s what holds your baby in place in case there is a sudden stop. In fact, it’s built to keep the baby seat from moving anymore than six inches. A good example would be the Graco Nautilus 3-in-1 Car Seat. If you have a LATCH system this is usually an integrated part.

EPS foam is another safety measure for your baby’s car seat. You can also find this in bicycle helmets. If an accident occurs, the foam diverts the forces of the crash away from the baby. The idea is to put an extremely forgiving barrier between them and any type of hard surface. There is also a HUGS harness that is build to prevent movement. This is helpful for even a side car crash or a little fender-bender.

While each one of these safety measures are extremely important, the safety harness is on of the biggest benefits. When you have found the right baby seat for your car it should come with a 5-point system. It should also be form fitting to compact their range of motion, and it should latch down to the seat itself. Check out the Graco Nautilus to get an idea. Since children want to learn unintentionally, the latch should be out of reach when your child is harnessed into the seat.

Comfort for your baby is also something to consider, so the car seat should have plenty of cushioning such as the Graco Nautilus Car Seat. We recommend finding something that can be detached in case it gets dirty. Therefore it should be allowed to be placed in the washer for a proper cleaning. During this time we recommend wiping down the body of the seat and using anti-bacterial wipes to get rid of any germs. A good choice is the 3-in-1 seats. They can change from rear-facing to front-facing, and basically complement your child as he or she grows. Eventually you can transform your baby car seat into a booster seat and still get the same support in the process.

While your budget may not allow you to spend hundreds of dollars on a car seat, that doesn’t mean you should buy some cheap seat, or buy from a second hand store. Buying used seats, is not a good idea, because they have had a lot of use, and may not have the same structural integrity as a new seat. It is important to know that a good quality seat is going to range from one to two hundred dollars.

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For as long as the winter season is, there are seemingly an endless amount of hours that parents need to fill with fun activities for children. As the days get shorter on daylight and even colder still, it’s important to keep kids active, engaged and happy and that involves quite a bit of creativity at times. Whether you like video games and board games or more active pursuits like sledding, skiing or snowshoeing, if you set your mind to it, there’s no end to the amount of winter activities for children to try with your kids . Below are a few ideas you might want to try:

– Create a snowman. Scavenge around the house for old hats, a carrot for his nose, buttons for his eyes, a scarf and whatever else they can come up with to being their creation to life. If you have more than one child, have them make mini snowboys and girls to represent themselves in your yard.

– Visit the local ice skating rink or pond and make an afternoon out of it, full with hot chocolate afterwards.

– Going Out Sledding is one of the most fun wintertime activities for children. So find a big hill and have a family race to the bottom! To really make the memory last, don’t forget to take photos.

– Take a nature walk in the woods or snowshoe and see if you can identify different animal tracks through the snow.

– For kids that love arts and crafts, collecting pine cones and leaves from outside and turning them into wreaths and other holiday décor is a great activity.

– Crafty kids might also love making holiday cards. From construction paper, markers and glitter to digital photo projects, depending on the age and aptitude of the child, the options are limitless.

– Another of the great winter activities for children is cooking together. A quick tangent: for kids who wince at the sight of veggies, asking them to help make the meal is a great trick. They’re much more likely to eat a meal that they helped to prepare. And, of course, kids love to bake sweet treats as well. Far away relatives might actually want these as gifts.

– Find out what’s going on at your library or community center. You could sign everyone up for a storytelling hour or take a class or two in arts and crafts, painting, drawing and more.

– Finally, there’s the family game night. From board games to video games, this is one of the best activities for children and families.

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