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As a father of twins, we have to do a lot of tasks, and make some decisions. I will share in this post the 5 things I’ve done that I am most proud of.
 

1. Divide the night with my wife

This had not been planned before the birth, but I must say it is one of the things I am most proud of. It happened that I was doing some extra work, I am computer engineer and had some particular clients, besides my 8 hour day job. So I had to work at night.

Before having children, I did that type of work as soon as I arrived home, but after the birth it was impossible. So I started to work after the babies felt asleep, and as I was working, every time they cried I went to feed them and take care of them, telling my wife to stay sleeping.

Then, at 3 am, when I finished working, I went to sleep and it was her turn. This way, I slept 5 hours (but without interruptions) and she slept from 10 pm till 3 am without interruptions and maybe had to feed them one time between 5am and 6am.

2. Make them sleep early

I cannot emphasize how important is to do this since they are very little. We gave them dinner and then make them sleep by 9pm everyday. Starting this routine when they are little makes them get used to it and don’t complain in the future.

As an example, they get so used to the routine, that one time my parents came to take care of them some hours at night, the boy (he was 2 years old!) at 9 o’clock took his pillow and told his grandparents: It’s time to sleep.

3. Start school very young

I must be fair. This was not my idea, it was my wife’s. I was not sure if sending the twins to school when they were 1 year and 2 months old would be a good thing. But she argumented that it would be productive, specially for the boy who was rather anxious.

And she was right. It was great. Their adaptation was not long and they started to make friends. And the next year, when a lot of kids were crying on the first day of class, they gave us a kiss and stay in class without complaint.

But as I said before, what I am proud of in this case is to have listened to my wife.

4. Not letting the grandparents spoil our limits

This has caused lots of “fights” between my mother and me, because she tries to overprotect them. When we punish the kids, sending them to a corner in the living room to make them think and she was there, she tried to convince us to end the punishment very soon.
Limits should be clear since they are very young, and the kids are always trying to “move the line”. If somebody allows them to do things that are not within the limits, they try to repeat that, and you will have a very difficult task: make your kids accept your limits again.

5. Separate twin rooms when they were 4 years old.

This can vary depending if they are fraternal twins, identical twins, same sex or opposite sex, and if it is possible to use another room.
In our case, we have one boy and one girl and I must say I am very proud of having separated them.
Now each one has their place, their toys, one room is decorated for a boy and the other for a girl. Also, when they invite friends, girls can play in one place and boys in the other, and they don’t fight any more.

 
These are the five things I am most proud of having done as a father of twins.  I hope I will be able to extend this list as time passes and the twins continue growing up.

What do you think about these five points ?   Do you agree with what we have done ?   What are the things you are proud of ?   Please leave a comment and share your opinions.

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