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As a father of twins, we have to do a lot of tasks, and we make mistakes. I will share in this post the 5 things I’ve done that I regret.

1. Loose patience with them

I must admit it. I have no much patience with kids. Sometimes I realize I shout them, because I was expecting them to do something, when I should have thought about the reason they had for not doing what I expected. There are times where I think they are older, and become angry for things that are natural at their age. This is the thing I most regret.

2. Didn’t enjoy the first months

Besides the natural mess of the first months, I didn’t enjoy the first months for an additional reason. My wife and my family’s relation was not in the best moment, so we didn’t ask them all the help we were needing.  In the first months, help is needed and that situation complicated our lives.
I should have tried harder to improve that relationship before.  Now the relationship is excellent, but prevented me to enjoy the first months.

3. Not playing enough with them

This may happen to many parents, when you return home from work you are very tired and are not so motivated to play with them. In addition, as they are twins, they always have somebody to play with, so you tend to think they don’t need you.  But I’ve realized how much they need us to play with them as years passed, and for example, the boy is going to a psychologist, as he was behaving very bad and we had no clue of the reason. And it seems one of the problems is that he needs us to play more with him.

4. Not being strict with some limits

Limits are very important and I think we have been strict enough. However,  there have been some cases where we allowed to do some things that I regret.  For example, when they were 3 years old,  we allowed them some nights to come to our bed before going to sleep.  And that was terrible,  because they continued doing that for a long time, until we decided to be firm, and make them sleep in their rooms.
Of course, that caused crying and screaming the first days,  but I am glad we did that.

5. Give them too much presents

Of course you like to buy your twins lots of presents. I like too. But I feel we have given them too much presents, and that causes they don’t valorate the toys they have, always wanting more.

These are the five things I regret having done as a father of twins.

What do you think about these five points ?     What are the things you regret ?   Please leave a comment and share your opinions.